Marriage and the Caste System in Pakistan

 


She was sitting in her office with a smile on her face and mind clutched in deep thoughts. Looking out through the window at the girls running, playing, gossiping, laughing and enjoying in the school's playground she was probably thinking about her own childhood or may be about having her own kids; which she wasn't had yet. She was an unmarried lady of about 34 years old. A call on the phone brought her back to the real world. Her mom’s number was blinking on the screen of her cell phone. She picked up the call and greeted her mom. Her mom replied her and said; “Dear! Another family is coming to see you in the evening, come home soon.” “But I don’t want to get married now mom, I’m happy with my life”. “Don’t be a stupid and do as I say”, by saying that her mother disconnected the call. She hung up the phone and started looking out of the window once again. She was a highly qualified woman and was working as a Principal in a well-renowned government institution.

The reason that she did not get married yet was that her parents did not get a suitable match for her. They were unable to find an educated and well settled boy of their caste. There were a few families who rejected the girl due to her age factor. I have seen so many girls who did not get married just because of the ‘Caste System’ we usually follow. “Caste System” is normally defined as “a social classification which divides people on the basis of inherited social status”; this so-called system is only followed in India and Pakistan, while all the developed countries have had moved on by leaving this system behind.

I really don’t understand what does this ‘Caste System’ really mean? From where did it get originated? Why do people follow it even more than the teachings of our religion Islam?  Not even Islam has introduced such kind of discriminatory system. ALLAH Almighty has undoubtedly created the human beings in the form of pairs and categories but this categorization is not meant to create disputes. There are people belonging to different ethnicities and creeds, mental level of each and every human being is distinctive, there are variety of people who speak distinguishable languages and many more such characteristics but that really doesn’t mean that anyone is superior or inferior. In our society ‘Caste System’ has turned to be a social problem. We are living in 21st century where people are living very fast lives; they don’t have any interest in knowing other people’s caste or creed. But there are parents who still have conservative view point and they compel their children to marry according to their (parent’s) desires. Difference of caste along with social status is the greatest obstacle in the marriages of females as well as males. Parents still choose the option of coercive marriages, which ultimately results in domestic violence, divorce, multiple marriages, secret marriages, and disregarding relationships among the partners. Everyone is aware of the fact that where ever there is no mental compatibility between two people, the relationship is totally illegitimate and worthless. Even Islam has commanded us to know the will of children in the matter of their marriages. People in tribal areas of Pakistan consider it a sin to marry someone belonging to a different caste; they even kill those females and males whoever marries apart from their own Caste.

In my opinion, Caste System and Social Status both are insane stances and also are root causes of many social quagmires. Everyone has a right to decide one’s fate on one’s own. All I know is that Pakistan is a Muslim State; it is based on the Principles of Islam, and there is no caste system anywhere in our religion. Whereas, Caste System has its roots originated from Hindu Culture and also has religious approval under Hinduism. This system has no past and doesn’t even have a future in our country. Being Muslims and intellectual people we have to get rid of this social stigma. There is a dire need of raising awareness in our people, in our families. We cannot leave the females of our society growing old like this. ‘Caste System’ should come to an end.

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